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In Loving Memory

Rebecca "Becky" Annaline Golden Herder

April 14, 1952 – July 31, 2020

Rebecca "Becky" Annaline Golden Herder of Friendswood, Texas died on July 31, 2020, after an eight-year battle with lobular breast cancer. She is survived by her husband Richard Herder and her three daughters, Kirsta, Karen, and Liann, her daughter-in-law Sarah Dewhirst and grandson Marsley West Herder. She is also survived by her cousin Tommy Buntyn of Richardson, who was more like a brother, his wife Marylou, her sister-in-law Jeannie Martin of Victoria, and numerous nephews and nieces. Born in Yoakum on April 14, 1952, Becky was 68 years young and sharp. She was a true realist, whose wisdom and life lessons could be counted on until the end.

Over 51 years ago, Richard spotted a beautiful blonde feeding cattle in her pasture by a country road. After a short courtship, Richard asked Becky to marry him as she boarded a Greyhound bus. She, a bit dazed, responded yes. They will miss their 50th wedding anniversary on May 21, but together they have spent more than half a century learning, loving, and growing together.

Born into poverty in a small farmhouse on the Hochheim Prairie, Becky grew up never taking anything for granted. She graduated from Yoakum High School in 1970, traveled with her new husband to Austin in 1971, then to Maryland in 1972. There she gave birth to their first daughter and also acquired her Bachelor's Degree in Horticulture from the University of Maryland in 1978. Upon her return to Texas, she achieved Galveston County's Master Gardener status in 1990 and volunteered for many years at the Armand Bayou Nature Center. She freely offered her time for nine years managing concessions, uniforms, transportation and more as all three daughters marched with the Friendswood High School Mustang Band.

While her first ambition was to help grow food with the USDA, her life instead led her to become the great shepherd of the Herder family. She explored the roots and leaves of the family tree, making discoveries and solving mysteries from centuries back. She raised three firebrand daughters, allowed them the freedom to explore the world, and guided them on the footpaths of life, pointing out the poison ivy along the way. As her children brought scores of friends through her open door, she accepted each under her wing, sharing with them a warmth and enthusiasm characteristic only to a few lucky households. Her love for the true person inside each of us was endless.

Becky ensured that life around her flourished: family, friends, or Texas wildlife and wildflowers that she cultivated with great care in her yard. We must mention the menagerie of visiting opossums, skunks, raccoons, squirrels, treefrogs, toads, lizards, and birds that will miss their friendly guardian.

It was textbook Becky to think of others before thinking of herself. Her loss cannot be met in words. As she crosses the bridge between this life and beyond, she will be greeted by her beloved dogs Half-Pint, Gracious and Leia, cats Darlin' and Max, her mother Marguerite "Rita" Golden, father James Herman Golden, and grandmother "Oma" Elvira Buntyn. She will plant a garden for those who follow.

In lieu of flowers, please honor her spirit by making a donation to your local SPCA, the Nature Conservancy, Ocean Conservancy, or your local State Park. Take a walk in the woods, listen to the bees as they hum about the flowers, and remember the woman who will continue to guide our better selves.

A memorial service will be hosted at Jeter Memorial Funeral Home in Friendswood, Texas on August 22 at 2:00 in the afternoon, with visitations beginning at 1:00. Face masks are required for all in attendance. For those unable to attend in person, a livestream will be broadcast on her husband Richard's Facebook page. Becky requested that we do not mourn her by wearing black, rather that we celebrate her in bright colors and casual clothes, as if you are coming by her home to visit.

Condolences may be sent to the Herder family in care of Jeter Memorial Funeral Home at www.jeterfuneralhome.com.

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11 thoughts on “Rebecca "Becky" Annaline Golden Herder”

  1. I met Becky in the 1st grade at St. Joseph's primary school in Yoakum Texas and we graduated from Yoakum High School together in 1970. She was a kind and happy classmate who was a pleasure to know. During the past year, we worked together to update the addresses of our high school classmates in preparation for our 50th reunion. It was postponed due to the COVID-19 pandemic and I am so sorry we will not be able to see her again this side of heaven. She was a wonderful person who will be greatly missed by her many friends and classmates. My wife Pam and I will pray for Richard and the Herder family during this difficult time.

    1. Christine Caselli

      So sorry to hear this. When I was doing her hair in Friendswood she was always one of my favorites. Prayers for y'all at this time. Becky was a sweetheart.

    2. I met Rebecca Golden on day 1 of the First Grade at St. Joseph Catholic School. She was the most outgoing little girl in our class and to my knowledge, never changed! She lit up every room she entered with her golden hair and brilliant smile. She was respectful of everyone but could also cut you down to size quickly with a sideward glance! We lost contact with each other over the years after graduation, but it was so nice to receive a letter from Rebecca in November of 2018 regarding our upcoming 50th YHS reunion. Emails and a telephone call followed catching up on the last 30-50 years. Still friends after all the years. Heaven has a new golden haired angel now and I pray for her. God bless you Richard and all your family.

  2. Nellie Minneman

    My deepest sympathy for all the Herder Family.
    I had the honor of meeting Becky after meeting my life long friend, Kirsta.
    Becky was a beautiful kind soul, filled with so much knowledge.
    She shared her enormous amount of wisdom with those in her path that needed it.
    I admired her strength and how she raised 3 strong daughters.
    She will be greatly missed, but never forgotten, as she has 3 daughters that will carry on her strengths in them.
    Herder Family, with each passing day you will smile once again and you will remember Becky each time and the love she had for each of you.

  3. Carol (Wehmann) and Dennis Bade

    Dear Herder Family,
    We extend our sincere sympathy to all of you. We are so sorry for your loss. I met Becky at Yoakum High School in 1967 and I will always remember her beautiful smile and energy like no other. Prayers for all.
    Carol (Wehmann) and Dennis Bade

  4. Robert T Wilson

    The above picture says it all. 'Becky – was as beautiful outside as well as inside. She raised a loving and strong family that I'm sure she was very proud of. I met Becky through one of her daughters , Kirsta. Over time Kirsta and I became good coworkers and best firends. The Wilson family's thoughts and prayers remain with the entire Herder family during their loss and celebration of a wonderful life called home to rest in the arms of our Precious Lord.

  5. Beautifully written for such a beautiful person. I will forever be grateful for her kind heart and welcoming spirit. I will miss her.

  6. I will miss my wonderful Becky. From the time she was born, she has been a special part of my life. My memories of her will be embedded in my mind forever. She was the constant in my life. Marylou and I loved our family celebrations and vacations with her, Richard, and family. My love to the family, Tom Buntyn

  7. We were so very sorry to hear of Becky's passing. Richard and Becky always seemed to be the perfect match for each other. I know she will be missed greatly by the family and all that knew her. Phyllis and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Phyllis and Dean Mill

  8. Hays and Carol Moore

    We were so sorry to hear of Becky's passing. She was such a warm, sweet lady. We have fond memories of cookouts in her backyard while we watched our daughter Amanda play with her girls. Love, hugs and prayers for comfort and peace to Richard and the family.

  9. Richard, due to technical difficulties, Carol and I were not able to view Becky's memorial service; however, we would like to extend our heartfelt condolences to you and your family . We fondly remember our times together at the Longhorn games and we want you to know that you and your family are in our prayers. Ray and Carol Gonzales.

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